Velvet Lashes

Hi Loveys,

 

So I am getting married today......thought I would write a post before I go away. I am getting married at home in Italy, surrounded by loved ones, people who I adore and have made a positive impact on my life.

 

 

One of the biggest commitments, most nerve wrecking and beautiful that I will experience. I got to admit I have hated the planning, I haven't been one of those girls who has dreamt about the details since a young age, I am someone who cant handle that kind of pressure of getting things like this done. I did not have a planner, but I had the help of my beautiful family who did so much and I cant thank them enough.

 

Today is the start of a new chapter, a chapter that I am excited about but also scared. I know people say things don't change, but in my eyes it will, its a huge commitment where two people will make vows, where love will be ignited and be grown over many years.

 

 

 

Signed Mrs Lawes

 

xx

 



Hi Loveys!

 

So here is the third instalment to the positive thinking series. How did your hand activity go and have you made your positive box? Be great to know!

 

 

Todays activity is a focus on your week, sometimes we can forget the things that make us smile and focus on the negative things as they take over how we feel and looking around that can be hard. What I want you to is draw a timetable Monday-Monday, with two sections under each day, one representing morning and one representing the afternoon, then place this on your fridge or by your kettle basically in a place you go to daily so you can see this regularly. So I want you to write a positive on each morning and afternoon section of your week, so looking at the smaller things such as the sun was out which made me smile, I had a lovely cup of tea, I saw a great film, My child gave me a cuddle etc, so looking at the smaller things in life that make us smile on a daily basis.

 

This task is one that works really well, then at the end of your week you can look at how many positives occurred rather then the focus going on the negative. When you have completed this add it to your positives box.

 

 

 

Now I want you to start a positives jar, you can get any jar you like and think of something you would love to save for, it could be an item of clothing, a chocolate bar, getting your hair done or a beauty item you are lusting over write that on the jar. Now, everytime you get a compliment I want you to say thank you to the person without any hesitation, repeat the compliment in your head and praise yourself by putting £ in your jar, this can be £0.20 to £10 a go however much you want to put it, then at the end of a month see how much you have and spend it on something for you as a well done. Accepting compliments can be so difficult and people react in various ways when complimented, a classic is saying with a nervous laugh "Oh no not at all, I just threw this together" or "You should go to specsavers" instead of these type of reactions smile and say thank you then reward yourself because in the words of Loreal "You are worth it".

 

 

 

A xx

 

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Hi Loveys,

 

Here is a series I will start where I want to help readers move forward positively, whether its helping you with depression, low self esteem and confidence or a difficult breakup these tasks can help you move forward with a positive outlook. I do this within my work and have had successful outcomes.

 

Timeline

 

This is a the first task to look at, it looks right back in your past from the earliest memory either positive or negative, I want you to sit down and think right back to your childhood. At the top of the sheet of paper right "Born" then a line to the left if the first memory is negative or to the right if the first memory is positive and note briefly what the memories are then continue the line up or down. Continue this right up to now, include all significant things, bullying at school, changes or difficulties at home and relationships. When you have finished you can email them to me and I can give you feedback and advice on what I see, or have a look at it yourself and you will be able to see a pattern, our past moulds us to who we are today, we all have behaviours that stem from somewhere, it could be a difficult home life, a person at school who put us down or an abusive relationship. When we see what could have started these we can look at how to tackle these to move on positively. I am not someone who will cure anything or stop the pain, but I can give you tasks to complete to help you start a journey. Follow this series to help with this, also as I said email me on .

 

Look at your timeline and see whether there is a pattern, highlight the things that stand out as the most hurtful and things that are the most positive. Choose two negative events or people associated with these. With these two people write each a letter, DO NOT SEND IT TO THEM, write all your feelings that you wish you could express, these could be swear words, one simple sentence or an essay of emotions, let everything out on this task then get rid of it safely, some people rip it up, some people drown the paper in a bath and some burn it (safely). This is about the start of letting go of all the worries and emotions around these people and events.

 

Let me know how it goes and wait for task two.

 

A xx