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Sunday, 27 May 2018

When life gets tough........

Being a human in general is bloody hard work isn't it? The pressures to look a certain way, to be this stepford style wife with freshly cooked dinner ready each night, clothes with not a single crease, a clean and tidy showhome. I have found I have been getting so irritated at the way the world is going and I have myself to blame. I feel I am constantly comparing myself to others, the way they look, how young they look, how they parent, how they manage a home with perfection, how they generally do all the things they do with not a sweat or tear in sight. I often get asked but "How do you do it?" I feel like being honest but hold back and just laugh it off saying "I don't know, running around after my tribe" and inside I want to cry and say I don't do it, think I hide it all well.

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I work in a stressful job part time, I help my brother in laws business (my husband has taken a lot of this on now), I also do occasion/wedding makeup, have three children 5 and under and have to keep a house clean and tidy and parent solely a good chunk of the week/days due to my husbands shift work and difficult job he does though he still helps as much as he can. There are days I want to run away, days I sit and cry and wish everything would stop and stand still, days when I feel "I've got this" and have loads of energy to do it all. There are days I wake up and wished I was "like her" who seems to be calm, happy and appears to have no worries and is the best mother to her children as well as having a show home of a house but then I stop and realise its okay....I have got this, I'm doing my best and yes there are days I struggle, days I cant cope and days I just want to run away from it all but its okay to feel like that we are only human and I need to learn to give myself a bit more credit and realise I'm okay, so next time someone says "how do you do it?" I need to hold my head high and be proud of myself.

How do you do it?

A xx

Links to outfit- some items are out of stock so I have found some alternatives in the widget below that contains affiliate links.

Jacket- H&M

Jeans- ASOS Mom Jeans

Pink Tshirt- Primark

White Trainers- New Look

Saturday, 3 March 2018

A letter to my little one....

Yesterday you turned 1, a day I didn't want, a day I wish would hold on for a while, why? Because you are my little baby, you still need me, you still want cuddles and want me near. I can't explain how it feels when your child turns a year older, it is happiness mixed with a little bit of pain, each year that passes means a year closer to you leaving to be your own person, a year closer to you not needing me anymore and this is what I fear but I know at the same time life is exciting, life is precious and I am proud of you and so lucky to be your mummy, lucky beyond belief and this I am grateful for.

You are beyond beautiful and all the little things you do make me fill with pride, the way you point towards the sky, the way you look with love, the way you growl and laugh. You have such a playful soul that is also kind and gentle. Mummy is proud of you.

You were born into a family who adore and love you more then words can express, you are my little angel who has completed the puzzle, you keep me warm and content. Some of my happiest moments are when I look into your eyes, see you smile, when you hold me tight, I thank you for loving me as your mummy.

Little Nello....things to remember and do

Go on adventures

Explore the world around you

Don't wish to grow up, keep your little imagination alive for as long as you can

Chase that butterfly

Go for walks and feel the wind against your face

Feel the sand between your toes feeling each grain

Run into the sea with a smile on your face

Laugh till it hurts

Dance till your feet cant dance anymore

Love with all your heart

Be kind

Know that everyone is different and this makes us all beautiful

Smile at strangers

Always listen and be there for others

Help those less fortunate

Know that you are loved more then you can ever imagine, that you will always have mummy near you no matter when I may be, be it here or above the stars, don't forget that I have loved and will always love you with all I have.