Velvet Lashes

Hi Loveys,

 

So this is a follow on the first post to help those think positively and to move on the best they can from a negative situation, this can help those with anxiety, low self and confidence.

 

 

 

How did the timeline and letter go? Be great to hear your thoughts and how you felt doing them. This next step is now looking at YOU, how you see yourself, what words spring to mind? I want you to draw around your hand and then think of 5 positives about you, about your personality and you as a person. This can take a little while but don't worry there is no pressure, take your time with this. With each word write it on the end of each finger on your hand.

 

Next, complete a positive box, this can be a shoebox or a Glossybox! Decorate this box however you like, it could be covered in your favourite photos, you could collage a variety of pictures you like or paint it, this is your box. Within this box I want you to put in all the things that make you happy including the hand activity above. You could put a photo in, a favourite flower, a favourite sweet or chocolate bar, a piece of paper with lyrics to your favourite music etc. This box will be something you use when you are feeling low, when you feel you need a pick me up, when these feelings occur I want you to get this box and spend some time looking through each item and reading the positive words about you.

 

These two activities are ones that you can do over time, if you want to take a photo of your box and hand activity then put it on Instagram or Twitter it would be great to see them!

 

Get ready for step 3 coming soon!

 

A xx

Hi Loveys,

 

Here is a series I will start where I want to help readers move forward positively, whether its helping you with depression, low self esteem and confidence or a difficult breakup these tasks can help you move forward with a positive outlook. I do this within my work and have had successful outcomes.

 

Timeline

 

This is a the first task to look at, it looks right back in your past from the earliest memory either positive or negative, I want you to sit down and think right back to your childhood. At the top of the sheet of paper right "Born" then a line to the left if the first memory is negative or to the right if the first memory is positive and note briefly what the memories are then continue the line up or down. Continue this right up to now, include all significant things, bullying at school, changes or difficulties at home and relationships. When you have finished you can email them to me and I can give you feedback and advice on what I see, or have a look at it yourself and you will be able to see a pattern, our past moulds us to who we are today, we all have behaviours that stem from somewhere, it could be a difficult home life, a person at school who put us down or an abusive relationship. When we see what could have started these we can look at how to tackle these to move on positively. I am not someone who will cure anything or stop the pain, but I can give you tasks to complete to help you start a journey. Follow this series to help with this, also as I said email me on .

 

Look at your timeline and see whether there is a pattern, highlight the things that stand out as the most hurtful and things that are the most positive. Choose two negative events or people associated with these. With these two people write each a letter, DO NOT SEND IT TO THEM, write all your feelings that you wish you could express, these could be swear words, one simple sentence or an essay of emotions, let everything out on this task then get rid of it safely, some people rip it up, some people drown the paper in a bath and some burn it (safely). This is about the start of letting go of all the worries and emotions around these people and events.

 

Let me know how it goes and wait for task two.

 

A xx